Intimate partner violence is so common, it’s considered the singe greatest cause of injury to women (re Domestic Violence Intervention Program). We don’t see it in the news except at hot point moments like the recent SCOTUS dumpster fire.
It can take multiple tries for someone experiencing ipv to leave for good.

That might sound surprising. A person who experiences ipv lives with familiarity and fear, and likely cptsd, especially if they’re in a long relationship. Once they come to believe they could leave, they weigh everything: kids, finances, housing, internal trauma, who to tell. That’s for someone in a hereto relationship.

Domestic violence in queer relationships in this fucked up homophobic culture add more risk to reporting and leaving, like assumptions and expectations being made about the people, accounts being misunderstood, ignored, or completely dropping cases.

Domestic & intimate partner violence in same, hetero, and poly identified relationships are subjected to the same patriarchal systemic beliefs and messages about masculinity & femininity.

#domesticviolence #believesurvivors #whyididntreport #whyistayed #whywomendontleave #ptsd #cptsd #smashthepatriarchy #fuckpatriarchy

  1. DV A Series
  2. Trust Your Gut
  3. DV Is Common
  4. How Could You Put Up With That?
  5. Why didn’t you tell anyone?
  6. What did you do?
  7. You stayed so long, it couldn’t have been that bad
  8. Why are you playing the victim?
  9. Why can’t you just get over it?
  10. Why didn’t you call the police?
  11. Bruises fade. The impact of DV lasts for decades
  12. How to help someone heal after Domestic Violence
  13. DV, a leading cause of homelessness
  14. Why does it all still bother you? (Flipping the question | Ask the right questions)
  15. Why can’t you let your anger go? (Flipping the question | Ask the right questions)
  16. How could you put up with that? (Flipping the question | Ask the right questions)
  17. Why didn’t you tell anyone? (Flipping the question | Ask the right questions)
  18. You stayed so long it couldn’t have been that bad (Flipping the question | Ask the right questions)
  19. Why are you playing the victim? (Flipping the question | Ask the right questions)
  20. Why can’t you just get over it? (Flipping the question | Ask the right questions)
  21. Why didn’t you call the police? (Flipping the question | Ask the right questions)